What Is a Godly Mother?

I had a friend ask me today, "What exactly is a Godly Mother"?  She said that she heard that term and it made her feel sad that she hasn't measured up to that lately.  Sound familiar?

A Godly Mother – wow, something I’ve been striving after for years. But, like many women who strive for this goal, I always feel as though I come up short. There’s always room for improvement. The good news, though, is that the bible says “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” (Matt. 5:3). Also, “God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble” (James 4:6).

These two scriptures, in my opinion, are very important to keep in mind when comparing ourselves to what the bible describes as a Godly woman because we will always (should always) see our short-comings and should know that we have not yet attained that goal. We will be learning our whole lives and as we grow in certain areas, the Lord will reveal deeper layers in our life that needs to be dealt with and conformed into the image of God.

Now, a Godly Mother, what does that look like? Very simply, she’s a woman who puts God first in every area of her life. She prays to the Lord for wisdom and guidance about everything. Any decisions that are to be made, need to line up with God’s heart and spirit in the scriptures. A great example is, of course, the Proverbs 31 woman. Please remember, though, this is not something that we can say “Okay, I’m going to be the Proverbs 31 woman” and then, poof, it happens. As we cry out to the Lord to mold us into this woman, He will begin to work in our lives to transform us. Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it (Psalm 127:1). God must do the work in us but we must yield our lives to Him and allow Him to do the work.

A short explanation of why I chose the two scriptures above to start out with: when I think about being poor in spirit, I think about what it means to be poor. Being poor means you are basically without. That to me goes hand in hand with being humble. Think about the Pharisee who prayed to God and said “I thank you that I’m not like other people”, then he lists some sinful people and goes on to list the “good” things that he does. (Luke 18:11). In his eyes, he was “rich” in spirit. Now look at the publican, “And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner” (Luke 18:13). The publican was poor in spirit. He understood that within man is no good thing (Romans 7:18), that all have sinned and come short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

When we come to God with this type of heart, then He can work with us, mold us. We are presenting ourselves as soft, moldable clay but when we come with pride then we are dried up, hard, unmoldable clay and God resists us.

So, as we see the example of the Godly mother and then see our present condition, we should not get discouraged but rather take that broken and contrite spirit (Psalm 34:18, 51:17) before the Lord and yield ourselves into His hands to be molded, shaped and transformed. Before you know it, by God's grace you will have things changing in your life and your character and you won’t even realize it.

Do You Smile at the Future?

As I was spending time in the Word during the wee hours of the morning (or night, depending on how you look at it), I suddenly had an urge to read Proverbs 31 again.  Like many women who desire to be Godly, I've read that chapter numerous times over the years.  But as I was turning to it tonight, I knew in my spirit that the Lord was leading me there to show me something.

Sure enough, as I was reading, six words stood out to me: And she smiles at the future (v. 25).  I just kept reading those words over and over.  It's as if I've never seen them before.  As I pondered this statement I realized that I don't smile at the future.  Most of the time I try not to even think about the future.  Then I had to stop and ask myself - Why?

Why is it that when I think about the future I get knots in my stomach? Why is it that when I think about the future I feel this helpless despair?  When I think about the future, I'm not thinking about me but rather my sons.  Are they going to grow up to be mighty men of God or are they going to reject the Lord and live heathen lives?

Am I doing all that I know to do now, during the few short years that I have to train them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord?

I believe that there is definitely room for improvement and that's why the Lord has so graciously revealed this area to me.  Now it is up to me to trust in the Lord and do good (Ps. 37:3).  Trust that He has revealed this to me so that I can turn it over to Him.  Trust Him to continue the work in me and my children and do those things which I know to do, without losing heart because in due season I will reap (Gal. 6:9).

Are You a Hidden Woman?

Hidden? You ask.  In a society where people strive to be "seen", strive to be number one, strive to be put in a place to receive praise and adoration from people.  Who in the world wants to be hidden?  Well, I do.  

Women today, for the most part, have completely lost their perspective of the high calling on their lives.  Of course, I'm speaking to christian women.  Women have an incredible amount of power to either build up or tear down (Prov. 14:1).  Unfortunately, most women in the church today are being deceived by the spirit of feminism.  They desire to be lifted up in the eyes of man, attain leadership and eldership positions in the church rather than fulfil their God-given roles and be pleasing in the sight of God.  It just grieves my heart to see women not able to find that place of complete contentment and peace from being who God designed them to be.  There is no greater calling on a woman's life than to be a help mate to her husband, raise children to love and serve God and be a keeper of the home with a meek and quiet spirit.  

You can call it old-fashioned and archaic if you want, but God's ways are not our ways.  This is His design from the beginning and it's His system of government, if you will.  Having an order to things doesn't make anyone less important, we are all equal in God's eyes but that doesn't mean that we can just throw away His plan for order in the home and the church.  

No born-again christian should desire to be exalted and feminism is about nothing else but exalting women.  Women's rights, women power, women equality, etc.  Our lives should be about one thing - exalting the kingdom of God and that kingdom is completely opposite from this world's system. 


This has been a subject on my heart for a long time but I wrote this particular blog entry after listening to
The Hidden Woman - a wonderful teaching by Denny Kenaston of Charity Ministries.  I am not a member of Charity but I do enjoy listening to and learning from their ministry. 

I realize that saying these things will probably make quite a few women angry but that's not my desire.  My hope is that women will truly go to the word of God and let the Spirit teach them rather than be misled by people in error.  I've heard the arguments for women "leaders" in the church and I must admit, they don't hold much weight against the scriptures.  

One last comment that I would like to make;  I was not always of this persuasion.  Before being born-again, I very much desired to be "seen".  I was all about promotions, women's lib and even made comments like, "I don't submit to any man".  It is only by the grace of God that I am a changed woman and am now totally and completely content with being (or striving to be) a hidden woman.